I recently came across an article ‘Why introverts absolutely loathe talking on the phone’ and shared it with my friends on Facebook. Surprisingly, it generated quite a bit of response. Some could relate to it, others took it to understand why introverts, like myself, avoid phone calls like the plague!
I felt liberated – people understood me!
Since I identify as a phone-reluctant introvert, I have to rely heavily on ‘texting’ as a means of communication. With the elimination of visual cues, unfortunately, text messages can be misunderstood and taken out of context. Or even generate a response like ‘wait …..what???’
Keeping that in mind, I’ve listed my top 5 text messages along with some explanations, in hopes that it may shed light on where introverts are coming from. This probably does not justify many of the texts we have sent, but at least it is an insight into our very overactive, high-strung minds.
The following are texts I have sent on numerous occasions and I can safely testify that most introverts may have as well. Have you received any similar messages from friends?
The one with the ‘last minute cancellation’ text
When introverts make plans, we honestly have the best intentions possible. We are filled with hope, optimism and enthusiasm. But it’s not long before we start doubting the anticipation that has built up as the day gets closer.
‘ Should I go? Wouldn’t it be great just relaxing by myself at home instead?’
Next thing you know, we are texting ‘sorry’s’ and profusely apologizing on the group chat! Considering the countless number of times I have ditched these plans, it’s surprising I still have a handful of friends left. So to those who still stick by me, thank you!
The one with the ‘how many people’ text
Are you expecting 4, 6 or 8 people? Yes. It makes a difference!. And did you just choose not to tell me who all will be there. Yes. It makes a difference!
Introverts mentally prepare themselves for how much human interaction will be needed. We need to psyche ourselves up before we leave the house. Will it be a few close friends, or a room full of acquaintances that will lead to the much dreaded meaningless small talk. Will I need to devise an exit strategy ?
The one when ‘someone else cancels the plans’ text
First. Secret little dance of joy.
Second. Make alternate plans that usually involve Netflix, pizza and chocolate. Perfect evening!
It’s nothing personal though. I think with the amount of planning and over thinking that introverts go through to enjoy a night out, it almost makes sense to relax at home. So when someone tells you plans are cancelled, it is almost a relief! And the best part is, you didn’t have to be with one to do it.
The one with the ‘weekend plans’ text
But I am doing something. Reading and watching a movie at home. That’s the plan. Why would you assume I would want to do something else? It may not seem as much, but rest assured, it’s the downtime we crave. I’m sure you’ve come across this before: introverts are never lonely, even if they are alone.
The one with the ‘I’ve been trying to reach you’ text
Truth be told, my phone was probably charging, but chances are it was next to me. Yes, I made an excuse, because I was not up for talking on the phone at that time. Or maybe I was wondering what you wanted to talk about? Would it be a quick ‘ do you have jumper cables?’ type call or a long-winded tale of how you spent your day furniture shopping in the Doha – kind of call .
Introverts, aren’t rude, though it may come across as that. But I assure you, they will call you back. Who am I kidding? Chances are they will probably text you back. In their own time though.
Even with all the countless articles, graphics and talks on the media these days, Introverts tend to be misunderstood. If you would like to read more about that, here is my previous post.
Until next time!